A funeral is an opportunity to honour and celebrate someone you loved. But with average costs rising, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed as you begin to think about the arrangements.
However, personalising a funeral ceremony can be a healing process. With the right thought and care, you can make their final send-off as memorable as their life was.
Choose a significant venue
The venue doesn’t have to be a traditional church or funeral home. You might find comfort in a location that held personal significance, whether that’s a local park or café or even their own house.
Try to think about places that were special to them or that carried an emotional connection. If they arranged a funeral plan beforehand, these wishes could be covered for you, lifting the burden during a tough time.
If you choose a non-traditional venue, make sure to consider the logistics of the space, such as capacity and accessibility.
Give personalised readings
Selecting readings can help create that personal connection during the service. You might choose a poem, a piece of literature or even a favourite quote or lyric that reflects their philosophy on life.
Some people opt for passages from religious texts, but the majority now prefer non-religious services, so branch out into non-traditional works if it feels right.
Involving family members in the process is a thoughtful option, such as asking a close friend to read aloud a personal letter or memory.
Set a unique dress code
Dress code traditionally leans towards sombre black attire, but it doesn’t have to be this way. Was your loved one known for their bright clothing or quirky fashion sense? Maybe they were fond of a particular colour, and you can ask guests to wear it in tribute.
A unique style can also take the form of something related to their interests, like gardening or football. Encourage guests to wear something linked to it ‒ be it a flower pin, a team scarf or even a vintage band tee. These small gestures help create more of a celebratory atmosphere.
Pick meaningful music
Music has a profound effect on the emotions, with the right song able to bring comfort and stir memories. Was there a tune they always played or that reminded you of a cherished moment together?
If they enjoyed classical music for example, perhaps a piece by their favourite composer would be appropriate. Alternatively, a modern pop song they often danced to may provide a more upbeat tone. Ask other close family members or friends what feels appropriate if you’re unsure.
If you have a funeral coming up or are even thinking about your own, consider incorporating some of these options for a more meaningful farewell.
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