Love is something we all want in life. Whether that’s love from our family, friends or work colleagues, to more intimate love with a partner.
For some, partners may be fleeting, and for others, a long-term partner might not always be something that’s wanted. Everyone is different, which means the individual quest you go on when looking for love is personal to you. With that being said, if you’re looking to get lucky with love this year, here’s some advice worth knowing.
1. Believe and reinforce that you deserve love
You deserve love. Everyone deserves love, but it’s often the case that not everyone believes they deserve the love they see on television in romantic films. Or the real love that they see between their friends, family members and anyone who is married or dating a significant other.
Despite the turmoil and problems you may have encountered in your dating life thus far, you are deserving of love, and it’s that belief that’s needed.
Just like you need to work on yourself and love yourself before putting that love and effort into someone else, you should believe that you’ll find your Prince Charming or Mrs Right – whatever you’d want to refer to them by.
2. Understand what you want from dating
What is it that you want from dating? For some, it’s a bit of fun, and for others, it’s either you’re committed to babies and marriage, or they don’t want it. There are lots of other opinions and thoughts in between when it comes to dating, too, so what you want isn’t right or wrong.
There are lots of different things that you or others will want from dating, so it’s important to know what these are before you go finding love. There may be compromises that you can make when it comes to looking for love, but you shouldn’t have to lower your standards to get the love that you deserve. Really, you can have both.
3. Be truly authentic and let that shine through
Being true to yourself is important when it comes to getting lucky with love. You want to be mindful of who you’re trying to be and who you are in reality. Rather than trying to be someone you’re not, it’s good to be yourself when you go dating.
What some tend to do when dating is they create a personality that’s not their own, or it’s an exaggerated version of it. You want someone to fall in love with you for your real personality, not something you’ve made up, and you’d expect that real genuineness back, right?
Try to be as authentic and honest as you can be, allowing that to shine through on any dates you go on, whether it means that those relationships work out or not.
4. Explore a mix of dating opportunities
There are a lot of opportunities to date out there, and it’s good to be aware of what these are so that you can explore them all when dating. Online dating has certainly ruled the roost when it comes to dating in the modern day, but that’s not all that’s available.
How about speed dating, for example? While a more traditional route to take when it comes to finding love, it’s still a popular one, regardless. You’ll know for definite that most people at these events will be looking for a genuine connection and hopefully a long-lasting relationship. Even if you figure it’s not the right type of dating for you, it’s always good to try it once.
5. Take care of your emotions and be respectful of others
It’s important that you take care of your emotions and that you’re respectful of others when it comes to dating. There are going to be people you meet that you feel a certain way about, and they feel the complete opposite. That’s ok and it’s normal. It’s also normal to feel rejected and upset in those moments, but you want to keep your emotions in check.
Being respectful of others is important, too. It’s going to help provide a positive experience for both you and your date, even if you’re not lucky in love and it doesn’t go any further than the date itself.
6. Follow up on dates and missed conversations
Everyone gets busy in life, and so it’s normal for conversations to get missed, especially when it comes to dating. Therefore, it’s important to follow up on conversations that you’ve missed when you remember so that you’re not leaving everyone you speak to on read.
The same goes for any dates that you happen to go on. While there will be some that you are excited to date again, others might have been a one-and-done type of situation. If that’s the case, then coming back to respect, it’s good to let them know that you’re not interested.
It’s always best to be honest and let them down now instead of dragging them along further than needed.
7. Accept rejection and move on
Rejection will happen, and as it’s been mentioned already, if you’ve been rejected, it’s important to be in control of your emotions. Being nasty to another person or taking it too much to heart that you feel the need to be negative towards that person is never the appropriate way to behave.
With that being said, if you get rejected, acknowledge and accept that rejection. You might need to sit with it for a while, but there are plenty of other people out there who are going to be looking for someone like you.
Getting lucky in love is not just about the luck but about your willingness to put yourself first and then to allow others into your life.
Finding love is a journey and one that’s not always linear. You might have multiple loves in your life, and that’s o, too. We’re all deserving of love, regardless of who you spend your time with, whether it’s briefly or for a long time.
Use these tips to help get a little luckier with love this year.
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